There may have been incidents where your trust in your relationship was broken, leaving you feeling insecure and deeply hurt. Because of those events, there have been moments where you questioned whether your partner is your person. Maybe it’s led you to wonder if the two of you want and value different things. Regardless, the pain you felt forced you to distance yourself emotionally and sexually, which is never what you ultimately wanted but felt was the only option available. You are desperate to move forward and trust your partner again, but you feel uncertain how that may be possible.

Even at this moment, you know a lot is going unsaid to your partner—things you long to be able to express but are unsure of how to speak without causing distress in your relationship. Every attempt to express your thoughts and feelings leaves you both frustrated, misunderstood, and even further apart than if you had decided not to have the conversation. But as time passes, it gets harder to hold in your feelings about what’s occurred in your relationship.

You both feel as if you are stranded at sea. With each passing day, life’s storm causes you to drift further away from your partner, leaving your relationship in a constant state of anxiety, fear, frustration, despair, and panic. But clearer skies can await you, and I am here to help your relationship navigate the raging waters to a calmer sea.