Perhaps your sex life is not at all what you had imagined it would be in a long-term relationship. It may be that you were raised in an environment where sex was taboo and shameful. It may be that sex was not something that was openly discussed, and if sex was brought up, there were adverse reactions. You may have internalized that sex was dirty and gross and it was not safe to talk about. Perhaps you were raised in a religious environment where you were taught that sex could only look one way, and you were underprepared for the sexual aspect of your romantic relationship. You long to be sexually intimate with your partner, but you have so much anxiety even knowing how to talk about your sexual disconnect.

Perhaps your sex life was once passionate and thriving, but the busyness of everyday life gets in the way. Whenever one of you tries to initiate, it could be that sexual pain, performance anxiety, or the other person seems to just not be in the mood. This pattern has left you both feeling hurt, rejected, and disconnected. You often wonder what went missing between the two of you. You long to feel desired and know that sex is a priority. You are desperate to reignite the passion and reconnect sexually