Couples Sex and Intimacy Therapy

Perhaps your sex life is not at all what you had imagined it would be in a long-term relationship. It may be that you were raised in an environment where sex was taboo and shameful. It may be that sex was not something that was openly discussed, and if sex was brought up, there were adverse reactions. You may have internalized that sex was dirty and gross and it was not safe to talk about. Perhaps you were raised in a religious environment where you were taught that sex could only look one way, and you were underprepared for the sexual aspect of your romantic relationship. You long to be sexually intimate with your partner, but you have so much anxiety even knowing how to talk about your sexual disconnect.

Perhaps your sex life was once passionate and thriving, but the busyness of everyday life gets in the way. Whenever one of you tries to initiate, it could be that sexual pain, performance anxiety, or the other person seems to not be in the mood. This pattern has left you both feeling hurt, rejected, and feeling like you are roommates. You often wonder what went missing between the two of you. You long to feel desired and know that sex is a priority. You are desperate to reignite the passion and reconnect sexually.

methods I use

  • EFT is a structured approach to couples therapy that blends systems theory, experiential

    therapy, and attachment theory. It entails three stages, which include nine steps. A

    substantial body of solid research, confirmed with outcome data, outlines the effectiveness of EFT compared to other forms of couples therapy. Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery, and approximately 90% show significant improvements.

  • Provides information about sexual health, anatomy, arousal, and common sexual issues to dispel myths

  • It helps individuals identify and change negative thought patterns and behaviors related to sex and their bodies

  • Aids in reducing anxiety and enhancing present-moment awareness during sexual activity.

  • A series of touch-based exercises designed to reduce anxiety and increase intimacy between oneself and their partner(s)

My approach aims to educate and help couples expand their sexual repertoire and disrupt the negative cycle of interaction that occurs when they feel like their sexual needs are not being met.

Couples sex and intimacy therapy can help you

  • Improved communication about sexual needs and preferences

  • Increased sexual satisfaction

  • Enhanced emotional intimacy

  • Resolution of past traumas

  • Better conflict resolution

  • Develop pleasure enhancement skills

  • Address differences in sexual desire between partners

  • Dismantle shame surrounding fetishes and kinks

  • Gain accurate knowledge about sexual health, safe practices, and the human sexual response cycle

If you are ready to reconnect sexually with your partner, I am here to facilitate experiential moments that have the power to deepen emotional and physical intimacy. Reach out to me if you are interested in working with me. I would love to connect with both of you.

 FAQs

  • Couples sex and intimacy therapy is a specialized form of counseling that helps partners address challenges related to sexual connection, emotional intimacy, and communication. It provides a safe and supportive space to explore concerns, build deeper connections, and improve satisfaction in your relationship.

  • If you and your partner experience difficulties such as mismatched libidos, lack of desire, painful sex, performance anxiety, or emotional disconnect during intimacy, sex therapy may be beneficial. It’s also helpful for couples who want to enhance their sexual relationship but don’t necessarily have a specific issue.

  • Sessions typically involve open conversations guided by the therapist to help you understand and navigate concerns related to intimacy. You’ll learn new ways to communicate about sex, develop deeper emotional connections, and explore practical strategies for enhancing pleasure and desire in your relationship.

  • While discussing intimacy is part of therapy, you’ll never be forced to share more than you’re comfortable with. The goal is to create a space where both partners feel safe expressing their thoughts, concerns, and desires at their own pace.

  • No. Therapy is a talk-based approach that helps couples explore their concerns and improve intimacy through guided conversations and exercises they can practice at home.

  • It’s common for one partner to feel unsure about therapy. Encouraging open dialogue and expressing therapy as a way to strengthen your relationship rather than “fix” a problem can be helpful. If your partner does not want to join at all, you can still attend therapy on your own to explore your concerns, gain insights, and develop strategies to improve intimacy and connection in your relationship.

  • Yes! Attraction can ebb and flow in long-term relationships, and therapy can help uncover underlying emotional, psychological, or relational factors contributing to this shift. Through guided exercises and communication strategies, many couples regain and deepen their attraction to each other.

  • The length of therapy varies depending on the couple’s unique needs and goals. Some couples find significant improvements in just a few sessions, while others may benefit from ongoing support over several months.

  • Yes! We offer virtual sessions for couples and individuals who prefer the convenience of online therapy. This allows you to receive professional support from the comfort and privacy of your own home.

  • Getting started is simple! You can schedule a consultation by contacting The Connection Couch through our website or giving us a call. We’re here to support you in creating a more fulfilling and connected relationship.